Many marriages start under good auspices. It remains to be seen whether the same can be said when an email sent by the future mother-in-law to her son’s fiancée, in which she criticizes her behavior, ends up being read by thousands of people and then debated in the press.
Heidi Withers, a 29-year-old nurse from London, received an email from her fiancé’s stepmother, Carolyn Bourne, 60, in which she explained that she lacked good manners and what she should do to correct the problem. Surprised, Withers sent the message to several friends, who in turn sent the email to other friends so that, a month later, it reached the monitors of thousands of people.
In the email, Bourne criticizes the young woman’s behavior during her family visit in April. The message was seen as a sign that jokes with mothers-in-law are still funny.
“It’s time for someone to explain to you how things are with good manners. Yours stand out through the absence and I’m sorry for you.
Unfortunately for Freddie, he fell in love with you, and Freddie as Freddie, I know it’s not easy to try to convince him or encourage him to think about how he could help you. I may still be able to convince you. Your behavior during your visit to Devon in April was amazing, due to the lack of refinement and grace.
If you want to be accepted by the whole Bourne family, I suggest you seek the advice of experts as soon as possible.
Here are some examples of your lack of good manners:
When you are a guest in someone else’s house, do not declare what you will eat and what you will not eat – unless you are definitely allergic to something.
You do not complain that you don’t have enough food.
Don’t start eating in front of others.
Do not serve extra portions without being invited by the host.
When you are a visitor, do not stay in bed until late in the morning in a house where the other members wake up early, you follow the rules of the house.
You should never insult the family you are going to join and especially not do it in public. I understand you considered this a joke, but your reaction in the pub was shocking, not funny.
You always pay attention to yourself. Maybe you should ask yourself why. No one marries in a castle, except those who own it. It is a shameless behavior, in the style of celebrities.
I understand that your parents are not able to contribute too much to the wedding costs. (There’s nothing wrong with that except that there’s a convention so you could assume they’d put something aside over the years for their daughter’s marriage.)
If this is the case, it would be graceful and appropriate for a lady to lower your expectations and have a modest wedding that matches your income.
People might even think that Heidi Withers congratulates herself for getting her hands on a very wanted young man. I feel sorry for Freddie. ”
How would you react if you received such an email from your future mother-in-law?