This mother reached the end of her powers in the story she tells below.
In the middle of shopping, trying to control a child with ADHD, with a baby in her arms, the woman received a mischievous comment that filled her glass.
<She’s not fit. I know that I live with her. She has ADHD and is frequently obsessed with the reasons why she feels wronged and does not stop until she falls asleep or something important happens to distract her.
I stood in line for a few minutes, and I ignored her cries and refused to give in. Isn’t it obvious that if I give in, I encourage his behavior?
I left the shops countless times because of her. Almost every time I end up leaving the store without the purchases I entered, with a 4-year-old child who is in a nervous breakdown and with a baby in his arms.
“Give her a cookie to shut up for once”
This time, however, I had to stay firm in my position, because I needed these purchases. I told him for the 10th time to sit down in the shopping cart so he wouldn’t fall when I heard a woman behind me say, “Oh, my God! Give him a cookie to shut up for once! ”
I could have answered him better. I could explain to her that my 4-year-old daughter has severe ADHD, I am raising my children alone, that I do everything I can and that I have nowhere to go, I have to stay and do this shopping.
Instead of saying that, he escaped, “She’s only 4 years old.” I managed to refrain further until I ended up paying for the products at home in a cashless system so that I would no longer have to meet someone who would consider me “that person”.
“That person” who has a child who behaves badly. That person seems too lazy to discipline his child because he ignores the behavior. That person who knows that anything other than ignoring the behavior will make everything worse.
You never know what someone else is going through
By the time I got paid, my tears were flowing. I just couldn’t stand it anymore. It annoyed me, it offended me and I am sad that I can’t even have a pleasant experience with my children in the store.
While I’m scanning my products, a woman comes up to me and starts talking to Sophie. He asks her questions to distract her, but she doesn’t undermine me when Sophie starts asking for chips.
“No, you can’t eat chips today. You have to be a good girl for your mother. She needs you to be nice to her. I have a little girl, just like you. How old are you? What about your brother? ”
Honestly, this woman could also be the antichrist and I would still have had more appreciation for her kindness and compassion than for anyone else I have ever met.
One comment is enough to put you down. You never know what someone else is going through. You have no way of knowing what problems a child has that make him misbehave and if you don’t know what it’s like to raise a child like mine, you have no right to judge me.
At the same time, it takes a single gesture of kindness to help a mother feel appreciated. I thank today’s Walmart woman for her kindness to me and my children. Thank you for leading us and helping us. Mothers need to help each other! >>